Sex FAQs

Q. Is masturbation harmful?

A. This is a tough one. Masturbation is not harmful in terms of producing physical disability or diminishing your virility. In fact, masturbation should be seen as ‘a handful of pleasure’. It doesn’t lead to any deformity of the penis nor does it affect the ability to achieve or sustain an erection.

However, there can be too much of a good thing. One should only indulge in it occasionally and in proportion to their stamina. Just as yoga teaches us about our breath being finite, Ayurveda states that libido and sexual resources in our body are also finite. Overindulgence can lead to depletion of our libido and physiological assets.

Just like you would not enjoy monotonous sex in the long run, robotic masturbation is not “a nice way to fall asleep.” It’s best that when you’re physically or emotionally exhausted, you conserve your energy and let your body heal itself.

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Q. What's the average size of the penis?

A. The average size of penis is 3.5 to 4.5 inches (8.8 to 11.4 cm) when flaccid. The normal range for an erect penis is considered to be between 5.1 to 7 inches (13 and 18 cm).

Factors like cold and exhaustion can temporarily affect penis size. It’s important to note that you should not try to equate the size of your penis when erect based on the size when it’s flaccid. This is because there is no connection between the length of the flaccid penis and an erect one.

Men often tend to mistake the size of their penis as they see it from above. Studies show that this causes many men to in correctly believe that they have a small penis when they have a completely normal-sized one. Always use a measuring tape to measure your penis and see of it falls in the normal range. If you’d like to eyeball it, look at yourself sideways in a mirror. The mirror never lies!

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Q. Is penis size important?

A. This is one of the most frequently asked questions on sex. The fact of the matter is that it is important only if you think so. Factually speaking, the vagina is only 8-13 cm long, and only the outer 1/3rd of it has plentiful nerve endings and is therefore sensitive to touch. Therefore, even a very small penis can touch every square centimeter within the vagina and can certainly perform adequately.

Satisfying your partner is not so much in the size of your penis as in your stamina and technique.

Q. Can penis size be increased?

A. Yes. There are two ways i.e. medicinal & surgical procedures to increase penis size.

Medicinal procedure: Massage with Sri Gopal Taila (oil). This oil is a tonic that banishes Vata disorders like neuro-muscular diseases. Massaging the penis with 3-6 drops of the oil can stimulate the penile nerves and help maintain a stronger erection.

Surgical procedures: Biharin Procedure and Fat Injection

The Biharin Procedure consists of cutting the ligament where the base of the penis connects to the body. This gives between ½-2 inches of increased length to the penis; however, because the penis is no longer anchored to the body an erection no longer points ‘up.’ Weights, or stretching devices, are then used for a few months to cause a permanent growth in size.

Fat Injection is the process of removing fat from the backs of the thighs and injecting it into the penis to make it thicker. Because the body rejects a significant portion of the injection, this procedure may need to be repeated several times and each operation carries with it a severe risk of infection.

Q. My penis bends down (or left, or right). Is there something wrong with it?

A. 1/4 of all penises bend in some direction and some bend downward even when erect. Come to think of it, one should really thank Mother Nature that the penis doesn’t have any bones in it, so it can easily bend in many directions to perform its job without much discomfort. Unless the bend is severe or causes you pain, there is nothing wrong or abnormal about your penis. It should not interfere with sexual intercourse. In fact some people find the bend is to their advantage, as it makes penetration easier.

Q. One of my testicles is larger than the other. Is that all right?

A. Rarely are both the testicles identical. In fact, the left one hangs lower in 85% of cases. It is nothing to worry about.

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Q. Sometimes I feel pain in my testicles. Should I be worried?

A. Intermittent twinges in the testicles are common and these sometimes happen after intercourse. If it lasts less than a minute then there is nothing to worry. An infection or inflammation causes testicular pain that builds up gradually. In such cases, always consult your doctor.

Q. I ejaculate too fast. What do I do?

A. Again, it is one of the more frequent problems. The solution is to try to strengthen your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. It is the muscle that you use to stop urine flow or to rid yourself of the last few drops. Try contracting it whenever you get reminded of it – in the car, at your desk, some 50-100 times a day. It is the same muscle that contracts for ejaculation, therefore strengthening it will give you more control during sex.

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Q. Are bumps on my penis normal or something to worry about?

A. Penises have all sorts of lumps and bumps. Most of them are harmless, just tissue build-up or extra fleshy bits under the skin’s surface. Others could be benign, mole-category growths. But do have a check up to determine that you are free of diseases such as genital warts (HPV).

Q. Does sex hurt the first time?

A. The first time a woman has sex, it may or may not be painful. There may be psychological and physical reasons for it. If you are not sure about your partner or if you are not entirely convinced about the timing and place, then you may feel more pain than you should. If you and your partner truly care for one another and he is gentle and understanding and will take things slow, then there may be less discomfort. Using large amounts of a water-based lubricant may help.

Physically, often, the first time a woman has sex there will be some bleeding as the hymen is torn. That is nothing to worry about.

Q. What is the G-spot?

A. There is a lot of talk regarding the most sensitive erogenous zone on a woman. The Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot, is considered to be one such area. This is an area located on the front wall of the vagina, about one centimeter from the surface and 1/3rd to ½ way inside the vaginal opening.

The G-spot is special because it is a highly sensitive area that under the right conditions can be very pleasurable if stimulated. For some women, it can be a primary source of stimulation leading to orgasm during intercourse.

It is believed that stimulation of the G-spot can lead to what is known as female ejaculation.

Q. Is it O.K. to have sex when I’m on my period?

A. Sex during periods is a strong taboo in many cultures but there is no scientific basis for it. For the average, mutually monogamous couple with no sexually transmitted diseases, there is no medical reason to avoid sex during menses. In fact, many women feel increased sexual arousal during periods. But hygienic precautions like washing and cleaning the penis well after the act are necessary.

Q. I feel pain during sex. What could be the reason?

A. There may be a host of reasons for painful intercourse. Pain on initial penetration is often due to infection, spasming of the vaginal muscles or inadequate lubrication. Pain on deeper thrusting may be caused by endometriosis, adhesions (scar tissue), a retroverted (backward-tilting) uterus or fibroids. Pain in only one particular position may simply mean that in that position, your partner is pushing against your cervix.

Persistent pain in all the positions should prompt a visit to your gynecologist for a thorough checkup.

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Q. I suffer bleeding after Intercourse. Is it cause for worry?

A. Bleeding after intercourse (post-coital bleeding in doctor speak) can occur due to several reasons. Infection is one of the most common reasons. Abnormal cervical cells, including cancer, are also more easily irritated and may bleed with intercourse. Women who use an IUD or diaphragm may experience such bleeding from irritation and friction. Sometimes the bleeding is not from the cervix, but rather from a tear in the vagina; tears can happen with vigorous sex or if you are dry down there.

Q. My partner wants to have anal sex. Is it safe?

A. Anal intercourse is often considered a taboo subject or an unnatural act. It is practiced purely for pleasure (instead of for reproduction) that comes from the tight grip of the anal sphincter. As the anal tract is not naturally lubricated, anal sex could be a painful experience. Your partner should preferably use a water-based lubricant to make sex more enjoyable. Please note that anal sex is considered illegal in India and some other countries.

Also, be aware that the germs from this region may cause an infection in the urinary tract of the man. If vaginal intercourse is done without cleaning the penis thoroughly, it may affect the vaginal health of the woman.

Q. If I have sex on my period am I safe from pregnancy?

A. No, pregnancy can occur during your period.

Q. It takes me 20-30 minutes to climax. How can I speed it up?

A. This is most definitely not an unusually long time at all. The average woman needs around 25-30 minutes of foreplay, stimulation and/or penetration to reach climax. Women need to feel loved and desirable to attain climax so discuss with your partner how to incorporate little romantic gestures during foreplay that will stoke your libido.